The book
Serving.LOVE Finding JOY
A practical guide to discovering more joy in your life — built on 80 Love Challenges you can start today.
Why this book exists
Loving people on purpose brings joy to the one doing it.
That's not a theory. It's what Hank and Jeannie Tate discovered over decades of opening their home, their calendar, and their hearts to people who were hurting.
This book hands you that discovery in a form you can use. Eighty specific challenges, organized by the people already in your life — strangers, friends, family, your kids, your parents, your spouse. Each one small enough to try today.
It also shares the source of that love: God's love, and the gift of Jesus.
Inside
What's in it
1
Why I wrote this book
Hank's story — the jail cell, the vulnerability, and the discovery that changed everything.
2
The 80 Love Challenges
Nine categories covering every relationship you already have. Practical, specific, doable.
3
Where the joy comes from
The Scripture and the source behind it — and how God redeems pain into a blessing for others.
The nine categories
Every relationship you already have
General · 19
Be intentional & purposeful · Smile · Express gratitude · Sacrificial time · Be available · Listen · Generosity · Hospitality · Compassion
Strangers · 10
Smile · Say “Hi!” · Say “Thank you” · Call by name · Tipping · Courtesy · Fist bump · Allow others to help you
Friends & Family · 15
Forgiveness · “I love you” · Write a thank-you · Speak praise · Tell them their impact · Be real, share your story · Text them · Call them
Children (not yours) · 5
Talk to them · Get on their level · Appropriate touch · Speak praise.
Your kids & grandkids · 12
Speak love · Cheering · Reading aloud · Teach things · Honor accomplishments · Make memories · Road trips · Go on dates.
Child discipline · 7
Love + discipline · Don't punish for new things · Celebrate failure · Never discipline a group.
Your spouse · 5
“I love you” · Touch · Dates · Help with chores · Protect their schedule.
Caring for parents · 4
Communication · Seeing them · Share the grandkids · Care.
Group serving
Volunteer alongside others who are serving and loving people. Joy multiplies in company.